Threesomes are a big part of our culture but they’re kind of like big foot. We hear of them a lot but there’s just no tangible proof. Suggesting to have a threesome in real life screams of awkwardness for everyone involved, especially now in our digital age when communicating and being physical with each other is becoming harder and more sparse. It’s 2019 so naturally, apps had to jump in and facilitate these meetings.
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There are quite a few apps that are threesome oriented. There’s Feeld, the artsy and elegant one out of the bunch, which advocates for fluidity and has some really cool Instagram posts. There’s 3Somer which is more straightforward, separating people into singles and couples and pairing one with the other. There’s also the personals Reddit thread, which, believe it or not, has become the new Craigslist, facilitating cuddle sessions, threesomes and everything in between. While uploading your own posting on the site sounds like jumping into shark infested waters, some brave people have achieved their goals.
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Elle magazine interviewed some couples on their threesome app experiences and found that they had a lot of things to say. One couple claimed that Feeld had facilitated over 10 successful threesomes. Another couple said that they’d been using 3some for years and still had no success. “It’s just a numbers game—the more feelers we have out there, the higher the chances of meeting others that we can play with,” they said.
Most people agree that looking for threesomes is a tough and time consuming process. The interested parties scouting for partners are often left unsatisfied since most of the app users are there out of curiosity. Another aspect that was mentioned several times is the fact that threesome apps are similar to dating apps when it comes to their success rate; there’s a lot of swiping and not a lot of face to face meetings. “[My husband and I] have talked to lots of women but haven’t actually met with any of them yet […] I’m a little disillusioned by these apps.”
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It seems like threesomes remain elusive, no matter how much digital help there is at our disposal. People still have to scout for them the old school way: by getting drunk with a friend and never speaking of it again, or else stumbling upon an orgy. Good luck.
