Social media makes it very easy to keep tabs on your ex when you don’t really want to. Here are some tips that can make break ups cleaner and easier to cope with nowadays.
Back in the good old days you could break up with someone and never see them again. Maybe you’d run into them at a party or at the grocery store, but you didn’t have to fear seeing their face every time you picked up your phone.
Thanks to social media, there’s no way you can end a relationship and feel the sweet relief of having that person disappear from your life. Facebook, Instagram and even LinkedIn make sure that you stay in some sort of contact with them, even when not actively tracking their movements.
Although the only way to get over a breakup is to let yourself feel all the feels, there are still ways you can make these situations and relationships a little less painful within our social media driven world. Here are 7 tips that can assist.
Take time apart from your ex
It’s tempting to keep in touch with a person that was important to you, but it’s also important for you to take some time for yourself and heal. Avoid texting and speaking with them, at least while you’re dealing with your break up. Use this time to nurture yourself with things you enjoy and with other kinds of relationships.
Don’t break up over text
One of the great things about living in this era is the fact that you don’t have to call people to tell them something brief, because there’s texting. This is a great convenience, but it also makes us be a little insensitive, forgetting that there’s someone else on the other side of the phone. If you want the end of a relationship or hook up to feel permanent, you should take it seriously and spend some time with the decision. You should also respect other people’s feelings and give them a chance to speak their mind.
Erase their photos from your profile
But consider saving your favorites. The decision to keep your ex’s photos all over your social media is obviously yours, but it can be hard to move on when you have constant and visible reminders of them. If you decide to erase them from your social media, then also consider saving your favorite photos for your memory’s sake, especially if it was a special relationship for you.
Stalking is a bad idea
You already know this, but it’s still important to mention it. Stalking will only make you feel bad and make it seem like your ex is living their best life, while you’re moping around in your room. Don’t do it.
Unfriend and unfollow vs. blocks
If you need to stop seeing you ex’s face, unfollow them on social media. Although blocking is useful if your ex keeps trying to contact you and is being a little crazy, most of the time the act of blocking someone sends them a negative and confusing message.
Delete their phone number
If you’re a drunk dialer, erase their phone number or save their contact under a different name. If you still want to hold on to something from them, write down the phone number and hide it somewhere. This might make you feel a little safer, like you have something to hold onto but eliminate a direct line to them at times when you’re most vulnerable.
Don’t post heartbroken posts
The worst thing anyone can do after a break up is to post passive aggressive posts and comments all over their social media. No one needs to know that you’re feeling sad and desperate. Talk to a friend and vent, anything to keep you from going on social media rants.