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The 5 Most Common Sexual Fantasies

Sexual fantasies are not often discussed openly, but for some people, it’s their job to listen to these thoughts and to try to give meaning to them. It’s safe to presume sex therapists have heard their fair share of fantasies from all sorts of individuals.

The Huffington Post interviewed their network of sex therapists and concluded that there are a few sex fantasies that are extremely common, no matter how strange or specific they might seem at first glance. These sex therapists also explained the reasons behind these fantasies and why people are so attached to them. Here are 5 of the most popular ones:

Threesomes

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Makes sense for this to be one of the most popular fantasies in the world, seeing as how it’s so widely discussed in real life. Therapist Vanessa Marin claims that this is due to the “appeal of sensual overload,” and the fact that so many body parts are involved. She also claims that this fantasy is common among couples, since they think that a threesome will bring some spark and excitement into the bedroom.

Foot Play

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This one is kind of strange. Therapist Gracie Landes claims that it’s a very common preference, regularly reported by men. These guys visualize shoes, genital stimulation and being walked on. Really specific, but apparently very common, even though it sounds more like a fetish instead of a fantasy. Landes claims that this fantasy starts when people are young and increases with age, getting stronger when there’s embarrassment or shame attached to the fantasy.

Straight People Interested In Having Sex With The Same Gender

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According to therapist Ian Kerner, people consider sexuality as binary and sometimes these socially constructed concepts are not enough when our innate sexual curiosity is sparked. He claims that straight people can sometimes fantasize with someone of the same sex because it feels foreign, and it also goes against the gender assumptions that they normally enact.

Multiple Orgasms

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This is a pretty common and vanilla fantasy reported by a lot of straight men. According to therapist Kimberly Resnick Anderson, this is the most consistent fantasy she hears bar none. She says that these men fantasize over having a sexual encounter where the woman is enthusiastic and having a genuine good time. Resnick believes that this fantasy stems from the belief that men often have to convince their partners to have sex.

Watch Your Partner Have Sex With Someone Else

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Kerner also claims that monogamy makes the act or the fantasy of watching your partner have sex with someone else very taboo and provocative, reinforcing your partner’s desirability and taking you back to the times when there was an intense physical attraction. Kerner claims that the voyeur, the one who fantasizes, is the one in control.

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