There are tons of myths and generalizations surrounding sex, perpetuating beliefs both outdated and not based on science. These comments and thoughts can be harmful to your sex life and health, making you feel inadequate and worried for no reason at all. At times they can even be dangerous, preventing proper sexual practices and care.
The Huffington Post compiled a list of sexual myths that doctors and experts debunked. Check out 5 of the most important ones to deconstruct:
It’s impossible to get pregnant while you’re on your period
This is a common misconception that can lead to unwanted pregnancies, making couples have unprotected sex believing they’re safe when in fact they’re not. According to OB-GYN Christine Grieves, pregnancy while on your period is rare but possible, and the most harmful part of this myth how broad this statement is.
“The problem with saying that you ‘cannot get pregnant on your period’ as a general statement? Sometimes women have bleeding not associated with a true period, and they may think they are getting a period, but that’s not actually the cause of bleeding.”
Men are the only ones who want sex
This is a very damaging and pervasive stereotype that keeps women and men from feeling comfortable with their sex lives and sexual performance. According to a study from 2016, men underestimate their wives desire to have sex, with 71 percent of the women reporting they’d like to have more sex than what they’re currently having.
Orgasm is the point of sex
While orgasms are great, they’re not the point of having sex. Focusing too much on orgasms can make you distracted and frustrated when you don’t achieve it. Other aspects of sex like kissing and touching feature benefits of their own, improving your mood and making you feel close to your partner.
Condoms protect you from all STIs
While condoms are very effective in protecting against diseases like HIV and gonorrhea, other infections like HPV and herpes—transmitted through skin to skin contact—are harder to protect yourself from. The only way to truly prevent an illness is to talk with your partner about STIs before you have sex and always be careful.
You’ll know when you orgasm
Orgasms can be confusing depending on the woman, with a high amount of them claiming that they don’t know if they’ve ever had one. “Women have different kinds of orgasms, as well—clitoral, vaginal, g-spot—that men simply don’t have, so it can be hard to know exactly what you’re feeling,” reports the Huffington Post.