5 Ways To Know If You’ve Met A Narcissist On The First Date

Narcissists tend to be charming and self-assured, a quality that's initially very attractive.

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Figuring out if your date is a narcissist is hard, especially when you’re just meeting them. Narcissists tend to be charming and self-assured, a quality that’s initially very attractive.


Since discovering the characteristics of a narcissist on a first date is pretty hard, so we’ve come up with this handy list of things to look out for. Here are 5 easy ways to spot if your date is a crazy egotist: 

Conversation Always Revolves Around Them 

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No matter what you’re discussing, your date will always find a way to turn the conversation in their desired direction: themselves. When you’re first meeting them, it’s not an unwelcome thing, because you’ll never run out of things to talk about. But after several dates the charm will wear off, and you’ll feel hurt that they don’t care about establishing a conversation or having a meaningful exchange with you.

Your Interests And Issues Are Almost Never Discussed

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When you go home you’ll realize that you didn’t share much about yourself and that you have about 5 dates worth of information on them. Feeling neglected after first dates is a warning bell that things aren’t going according to plan.

They’re Picky About The Seating Arrangements

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While you may think that it’s charming that your date wants to get the best possible table at a restaurant so that you spend the perfect evening, you’ll realize that their need to control everything is just a reflection of their narcissism. These people care about their appearances and won’t be happy with a table that’s in a lonely corner or near the entrance of the kitchen.

They’re Great In Social Situations

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Narcissists handle themselves very well on social situations, being charming to everyone they encounter as long as they don’t disrupt their image.

Money Is Very Important To Them

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They will want to pay for dinner and for everything else that you do, making sure you know how much money they’re spending. They’ll highlight everything they had to do to get this particular reservation, making you realize that all of their hard work is not for you.

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