Here’s Why So Many Adults Aren’t Getting Laid

The reasons aren't what you think.

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Lots of us aren’t getting enough sex, according to research by Shervin Assari at the University of Michigan. Look around your dinner table or down the bar, and odds are one of you isn’t getting laid.


Assari writes in an op-ed that there are several reasons for this, but the biggest is medical concerns. Heart disease, stroke, and chronic pain can make sex more stressful than relaxing for people managing these issues. Depression and loneliness are other major factors holding back the sexy times.


The responsibility to help people get more action lies with doctors, Assari writes:

Few people talk with their doctors about their sexual problems. Indeed, at least half of all medical visits do not address sexual issues.Embarrassment, cultural and religious factors, and lack of time may hold some doctors back from asking about the sex lives of their patients. Some doctors feel that addressing sexual issues creates too much closeness to the patient. Others think talking about sexuality will take too much time.

When doctors bring up the topic of sex, however, patients are willing to give honest answers.

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