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5 Tips: Learn A New Language In Time For Summer Vacay

Speaking a second language nowadays can be a huge perk in several aspects of your life. Bilinguals have it easier when it comes to finding a job, traveling to a different country, and even finding love. According to science, people who speak two languages have better problem solving skills, are better multi-taskers, and can make decisions with more ease.

So what do you do if you’re not a kid anymore and want to learn a new language without losing all your money in the meantime? It’s not easy, but it’s totally possible if you’re committed. Mashable compiled a set of tricks and tips that can help you achieve that second language, or that can at least help you learn a little bit of it.

Here are 5 of our favorites.

TV Is A Good Teacher

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Listening to a language is a really great tool when it comes to learning, and now with Netflix, you really have no excuse. By watching people talk fluently in another language, you’ll remember these words much more vividly than if you were just reading them.

Try watching a foreign TV Show with English subtitles and really listening to the words that these people are saying. Before you know it, you’ll find words that are familiar and will have an idea of how they’re pronounced.

Don’t Stress Over The Rules Too Much

Grammar and syntax are important, but they can also be overwhelming when you’re trying to learn a different language from scratch. The best way to learn a new skill is through practice; languages are exactly the same. Try looking for meet-ups where people are practicing a different language and don’t be embarrassed to butcher some words up. Sooner or later, it’s bound to happen.

Trust The Apps

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If you’re willing to spend a little money there are tons of apps that can help you practice a new language. Rosetta Stone is famous for a reason, costing 7 dollars per month, and including over 24 language options.

Babbel is cheaper, costing $5 a month, and it breaks down your language lessons into helpful 15 or 20 minute chunks. WaitSuite is another interesting, if a little eccentric, app that sends you translation flash cards whenever you’re waiting for your WiFi to connect.

Spaced Repetition Is Key

Spaced repetition is the learning technique where you review material at increasingly spaced out intervals so you improve your long-term retention. You can practice this technique by reviewing material every day instead of just cramming a ton of information and not reviewing it again for a really long time.

Find The Time To Study

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If you want to learn a language it’s very important that you’re consistent with it. Find small chunks of time to practice and set reminders on your calendars and weekly planners. You’ll see tons of improvement in your new vocabulary with a few sessions a week.

4-Ingredient Cannabutter Fat Bombs For Your Keto Diet

If you’ve gotta make some quick cannabis treats for a special occasion, party or 4/20 celebration, these treats couldn’t be easier to throw together. They’re cannabutter fat bombs and they come together in minutes and deliver delicious results.

To the uninitiated, so-called “fat bombs” are a popular snack on the high fat, moderate protein, and low carbohydrate known as the ketogenic diet. The idea behind this regime is that by drastically reducing the number of carbohydrates, the body will begin burning fat for fuel; this state is called “ketosis”.

Related: A Beginner’s Guide To Making The Best Cannabutter Ever

While many traditional cannabis treats like brownies and cookies would be a no-no for keto followers due to their high sugar and carbohydrate content, these high fat and nutrient dense balls are the ideal snack. They pack a pleasant serving of cannabutter yet won’t knock followers out of ketosis. Not a keto dieter? Don’t worry, these bombs taste delicious for all types of eaters.

Cannabutter Fat Bombs

Makes 2 large (strong dose) or 4 small (low dose) bombs; -recipe can easily be doubled

  • 1 Tbsp almond butter
  • 1 Tbsp coconut oil
  • 2 tsp  cannabutter
  • 3-5 Tbsp unsweetened shredded coconut, plus more for rolling if desired
  • Optional: pinch of salt (this may not be necessary if your almond butter is salted)
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1. In a large bowl, combine the almond butter, coconut oil, cannabutter, and about 3 tablespoons of unsweetened shredded coconut. Mix using a spoon or very clean hands until combined.

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2. If needed, add more coconut to the mixture, so that you can form it into balls. This will depend on the texture of your almond butter; different brands can vary quite widely in terms of texture. You can form it into two stronger doses or four lower doses.

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3. The balls might seem a little bit soft; if so, freeze them for about five minutes. At this point, when you take them out of the freezer, they should hold their shape as you roll them into balls.

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4. If desired, roll the finished balls in more shredded coconut. This is not necessary for recipe success, though. Store the finished balls in the refrigerator to help them maintain their shape.

Photos by Jessie Moore

A note on dosage

I “dosed” this recipe with 1 teaspoon of cannabutter per serving. The strength of your finished product will depend on many factors, including the type of marijuana you used and how you made your cannabutter. For more tips on proper dosage, check out  5 Ways To Figure Out THC Dosage With Cannabutter.

Prince Harry And Meghan Markle Have A Comic Book Now

Have we taken our obsession with the royals too far this time? Is a movie and a televised event of the wedding not enough for our eager brains? Apparently not, since TidalWave Productions decided to create not one, but three comic books illustrating Prince Harry and Meghan Markle’s fairy-tale romance.

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The three editions of the story are a traditional comic book with 26 pages, a hard-back, 40-page graphic novel version and a wedding edition with a special cover by Joey Mason. The books are written by Michael Frizzell, with art by Pablo Martinena, Joe Phillips and Justin Currie, telling the story of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle and how they met and fell in love despite the ever present paparazzi.

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Darren G. Davis, publisher of the books, says that “Fans of the royal couple will love this issue for portraying Harry and Meghan as two well-rounded and grounded individuals,” and that the story also has “enough pomp and spectacle to match the excitement surrounding the event.” Davis believes that the excitement surrounding the royal wedding is due to the current state of our world, and that this bit of positive news feel “larger than life.”

TidalWave books has already explored royal topics before, publishing Royals: Prince William and Kate Middleton, Tribute: Princess Diana, and Female Force: Queen of England. That last comic book sounds like it could belong in the Marvel Universe.

You can purchase these issues on print on Amazon or download them into your devices through iTunes, Nook, ComiXology, and more.

Ikea’s New Lifestyle Collection Includes A Very-IKEA Skateboard

IKEA is a strange place where you can lose hours of your life. You can spend entire days there and you’d still find new things to discover and to marvel over. SPÄNST, IKEA’s new collection, is lifestyle focused and has some scratching their heads.

Inspired by “youth culture” (is that even a thing?), SPÄNST, on all caps, is designed by Chris Stamp and Maja Ganszyniec, and it includes all sorts of objects, such as basketball hoops and skateboards. Not the most practical of things, but hey, it looks cool.

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“Fashion and furniture are different animals, but the creative process is similar. With this collection I’ve learned that it’s worth pushing the limits.”

What does that mean?

Stamp says that he “grew up surfing and skating,” in SoCal, where “skating is more than transportation. It’s a culture.” Obviously SPÄNST wouldn’t be complete without it’s own line of hoodies, graphic tees, and hats, for the young ones who can splurge on a $90 skateboard, or the adults who grew up in SoCal and are feeling nostalgic.

IKEA’s new collection will be available for purchase on May 1st, but there will be pop up events on Burbank, California for those who live near the area and feel like checking out their stuff.

Facebook Says You’re Not A Product, But Are You? 

Facebook has been wading through the hot waters of scandal lately thanks to the Cambridge Analytica data-mining scandal. Privacy issues have troubled Facebook, and many have been openly wondering if Facebook is the product or if you, the user, is.

Mark Zuckerberg was forced to respond in a congressional hearing to claims about selling personal data and users’ right to privacy. It was part of a public relations campaign that Facebook has embarked following the scandal, where the company wants to reassure users about comfortably and safely using the popular social network.

In a blog post Monday, Rob Goldman, Facebook’s vice president of advertising, tried to address the criticism head on. He wrote:

If I’m not paying for Facebook, am I the product?

No. Our product is social media – the ability to connect with the people that matter to you, wherever they are in the world. It’s the same with a free search engine, website or newspaper. The core product is reading the news or finding information – and the ads exist to fund that experience.

This message was met with even more criticism for Facebook. Goldman comparing the company’s ethos to that of a website or newspaper is particularly ironic as Zuckerberg has repeatedly insisted that Facebook is “not a media company,” but a “technology company.” It also doesn’t help as Facebook has ravaged newspaper and other media companies in the digital advertising market, and analysts have claimed that Facebook and Google own a duopoloy over the digital advertising market.

Goldman tried to explain why Facebook needs to store so much personal data about users, arguing that it was how the social media company researches to “give you a better service.” In addition, Goldman tried to suggest that if anything Facebook was a service and advertisers the product as there were the ones spending money.

But that also opened up the company for more criticism. Saying that “data also helps us show you better and more relevant ads. And it lets advertisers reach the right people,” does cause you to wonder who Facebook is trying to please more—you or advertisers?

What Facebook is and isn’t remains a contentious debate that isn’t going away anytime soon. Of course you listen to the founder of WhatsApp and remove yourself from the narrative and service if you want to play it safe. Then there’d be no worries about ads at all!

California Gubernatorial Candidate Could Spell Big Trouble For Marijuana

John Cox, the Republican frontrunner for in the California gubernatorial race, believes cannabis consumers should be hospitalized. Yes, California. Where marijuana is legal.

In 2016,  57 percent of Californians voted for Prop 64, an initiative that legalized and regulated recreational marijuana consumption and possession and set up a system to sell and tax the substance in retail outlets. Does Cox have a plan to open up thousands of hospitals? That remains unclear.

“I’m suggesting that people who are addicted to substances, substance abuse, should get treated, they should not be incarcerated,” Cox earlier this week in an interview with editors and reporters at The San Diego Union-Tribune.

According to a story by Union-Tribune reporter Joshua Stewart:

He said that California should implement a system akin to the one in Portugal, where people who are found with small amounts of drugs can receive mandatory medical treatment but aren’t charged with a crime.

He said that marijuana users should be put into a treatment facility because they might later begin using harder drugs.

According to recent polling, Cox is running in second or third place. In California, the top two vote-getters in the June primary proceed to the November election. Lt. Gov. Gavin Newsom, a Democrat and ardent cannabis supporter, sits comfortably in first place. Former Los Angeles Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa, also a Democrat, is fighting Cox for second place.

Newsom has been a major supporter of marijuana law reform for years. Much like his early supporter of same-sex marriage, Newsom broke away from the “safe” political position and became the political face of the movement within the state. He was one of the most vocal California politicians supporting Prop. 64, the 2016 initiative legalizing cannabis in California.

Meghan Markle’s Sex Scenes Hidden From The Queen

Meghan: A Hollywood Princess is an biography that was published weeks before the royal wedding, taking advantage of the date to boost up the book’s ratings. Written by Andrew Morton, the book goes in-depth regarding Markle’s life story, exploring her parent’s marriage, the challenges she faced while growing up, and her rise to stardom.

There’s also a part in it where Morton explains that Prince Harry showed an edited version of “Suits” to the Queen, skipping out on all of Markle’s sex scenes.

On an interview with Fox News, Morton explained that Harry showed a condensed version of “Suits” to Prince Philip and the Queen, so that they could appreciate Markle’s work, but that he made sure to avoid including scenes where Markle’s character has sex with Patrick J. Adams. As if “Suits” were an HBO show and the sex scenes were super intense. They’re not.

Morton also said that he finds it amusing that Meghan’s raunchy scenes are on the internet and yet “she’s scrubbed clean her blog, which includes essays on female equality… She also got rid of her Instagram, which had some charming shots of her.” Maybe this is because Kensington Palace can’t control the Internet, and because royals have never had presence on social media? Just a thought.

Another aspect explored in the book is the fact that Markle has been an activist since she was young and that since the moment she met Harry she’s been stepping away from the spotlight. Morton believes that meeting and falling in love with the Prince has allowed Markle to do what she really wants to do, which is activism, especially when it comes to helping women and children.

Meghan: A Hollywood Princess is available for purchase on bookstores and on Amazon.

Sanjay Gupta Just Wrote To Jeff Sessions Regarding Cannabis And Opiates

Dr. Sanjay Gupta, CNN’s chief medical correspondent and one of the most famous converts to rational marijuana policy, has written an open letter to Attorney General Jeff Sessions, detailing how medical marijuana could save the lives of up to 10,000 people every year who are addicted to opioids.

Gupta’s letter, which was posted on CNN.com on Tuesday morning, begins:

Dear Honorable Jeff Sessions,

I feel obligated to share the results of my five-year-long investigation into the medical benefits of the cannabis plant. Before I started this worldwide, in-depth investigation, I was not particularly impressed by the results of medical marijuana research, but a few years later, as I started to dedicate time with patients and scientists in various countries, I came to a different conclusion.
Not only can cannabis work for a variety of conditions such as epilepsymultiple sclerosis and pain, sometimes, it is the only thing that works. I changed my mind, and I am certain you can, as well. It is time for safe and regulated medical marijuana to be made available nationally. I realize this is an unconventional way to reach you, but your office declined numerous requests for an interview, and as a journalist, a doctor and a citizen, I felt it imperative to make sure you had access to our findings.

In the letter, Gupta reminds Sessions that drug overdoses killed 68,000 Americans in 2017, more than 45,000 of them from opioids. Every day, 115 Americans die from opioid overdoses. It has fueled a decline in an entire country’s life expectancy and will be remembered as a sad and tragic chapter in our collective history.

Gupta’s research indicates that medical marijuana can be effective in reducing opioid overdoses because the herb is effective in managing pain — and the symptoms of withdrawal from opiates. For those taking prescription opioids, Gupta said using cannabis can be effective in managing long-term pain and lessening the potential increase in pain typically associated with ending opioid use.

“These are desperate times,” Gupta writes, “and while some may consider making medical marijuana widely available to be a desperate measure, the evidence has become increasingly clear of the important role cannabis can have.”

According to the letter, Sessions has refused multiple requests for an interview with Gupta. Sessions has not commented yet on the letter.

Gupta’s letter concludes: “Recently, your fellow conservative John Boehner changed his mind after being ‘unalterably opposed’ to marijuana in the past. If you do the same, Mr. Attorney General, thousands of lives could be improved and saved. There is no time to lose.”

You can read Gupta’s letter to Sessions here.

Weed 4: Pot Versus Pills will air on CNN this Sunday, April 29th. Check your local listings. 

6 Things Everyone Needs To Know About Today’s Marijuana

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Today’s Marijuana: As more states open the door to marijuana legalization –whether for medical use or recreational use — the taboos surrounding the herb are quickly vanishing.

For some of you, the last time you tried weed was in your college dorm, fumbling with a badly rolled joint and coughing uncontrollably while trying to act cool. Others just said no.

For those of you who identify as “cannabis curious” 0r simply want to know more about marijuana today, this story is for you. For the hardcore tokers out there, consider this a refresher.

How Many Americans Are Now Enjoying Cannabis?

According to a Gallop poll released in August, 33 million Americans—13 percent of the U.S. population— consume marijuana today on a regular basis. Just three years ago, only 7 percent admitted to regular consumption. Remember, these are Americans self-reporting that they are essentially breaking federal law, so most polling experts believe the number is significantly higher.

In another study released this month by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, it was revealed that 47 percent of American adults used marijuana at least once during their lifetime. In 1969, only 4 percent of Americans admitted to trying the herb one time.

The CDC report also found that use among teens (12- to 17-year-olds) dropped 10 percent since 2002.

Clearly, the baby boomers are finding cannabis is fitting into their lifestyle just fine.

What About Potency? Will Marijuana Today Get Me Too High?

Yes, this millennium’s marijuana is a lot stronger than the Woodstock weed of generations ago. That being said, here’s what you need to know.

Back in the 1960s and ’70s, soldiers returning from Vietnam and other world travelers smuggled back literal tons of hashish and Thai stick, ultra-powerful forms of weed that would measure up to what is out there today. So if you were fortunate enough to enjoy the “good stuff” back in the day, you won’t be too surprised.

Botanical science has improved dramatically over the past 40 years. Master growers have been successful in cloning, hybridizing and manipulating the genetics of cannabis strains to produce stronger, more robust plants. Lab studies show that today’s herb is about three times as potent as weed from the 1970s.

But once again, there is an important caveat. The cannabis tested in the 1970s was from product confiscated from law enforcement agencies. Most of this was from near the southern border or smuggled in from Central America. This weed was mostly “Mexican ditch weed” or “brick weed” — a cheap, low-quality product. The high  quality weed — mostly from large grows in northern California — was rarely captured, thus never lab tested.

The bottom line: Yes, today’s cannabis is strong. Do not underestimate its psychoactive effect. Take a few tokes and wait a while before continuing.

Plan ahead and please do NOT DRIVE while impaired.

Will I Still Smell Like a Skunk After Smoking?

Well, the scent of the herb hasn’t really changed. So, yes, your parents (or children or boss or landlord or spouse) will most likely smell it if you smoke it.

There are ways to mask the odor, but it’s likely to be detected by someone with a sensitive sense of smell.

Using a vape pen or portable vaporizer eliminates most of the smell. Since vaporization does not combust the herb — merely heating it enough to create vapor — the smell is less intense and disappears quickly. So if discretion is important, try vaping instead of smoking. Plus, there is always edibles …

Will Today’s Brownies Make Me Pass Out?

Edibles are tricky and need to be handled with care. Eating cannabis is entirely different than smoking or vaping it.

When smoking of vaping, the THC passes through the blood-brain barrier quickly through the lungs. You usually feel the effect quickly and it is much easier to control your dosage. Edible cannabis (candies, baked goods, etc.) need to be processed by your liver before entering your bloodstream. This biological fact means the edible will take longer to take effect — typically 40-60 minutes for the average person — and the high will last much longer.

Because of the way it is digested, edibles are a bit more of a guessing game. Everybody’s metabolism and tolerance is different, so what works for you will almost certainly not work for your spouse or friend. Trail and error is the best way to start with edibles. Begin with a low dose (5 mg), wait two hours, and work your way from there.

In legal states like Washington and Colorado, strict dosage limits are regulated to ensure proper titration.

Overindulging on edibles is an unpleasant experience. So take it easy and take it slow.

What Other Methods Are There For Ingesting Cannabis?

Let’s see, we covered smoking, vaping and edibles. Here are a few other ways to enjoy cannabis:

  • Beverages: Drinking cannabis is similar to eating it because it is processed in the major organs before entering the blood stream. There are some great beverages out there in moderate doses for you to enjoy. Think of drinking cannabis like you would a fine cocktail. Sip it. Savor it. And listen to your body. And don’t drink and drive!
  • Tinctures: This method is preferred for medical patients who want a reliable, fast-acting dose without having to marijuana today. The THC in tinctures are absorbed sublingually — meaning the tissues in your mouth. Take a dropper of the tincture and let it swish around in your mouth for a bit before swallowing. The tissues in your mouth will absorb the cannabinoids. Tinctures are discreet, effective and highly underrated.
  • Lotions, balm, massage oil: Yes, you can use cannabis all over your body, from head to toe. There are cannabis shampoos, soaps, shaving cream, you name it. Here’s the important thing to remember about topicals: You will NOT get high from using them properly. Your epidermis does not have a receptor for THC, the psychoactive ingredient. The receptors on your skin bind to the CBD and other cannabinoids that are not psychotropic. Your body and muscles will feel relaxed and any pain you have will lessen. Try them as part of your everyday beauty routine.
  • And more! We are entering the golden age of cannabis entrepreneurship. If there is a demand for a product, someone is already creating it. Sublingual lozenges and strips. Tampons. Patches. Sex lubes. Gum. The list goes on

Am I Paranoid? Or Am I Just Paranoid About Getting Paranoid?

We here this one a lot. And, yes, any substance that changes brain chemistry, even mildly for short periods of time, can cause your brain to play tricks with you. It’s not pleasant.

This experience typically hits those new to the psychoactive sensation of THC and it usually is a temporary phenomenon. So what do you do if that dreaded sense of paranoia kicks in? Drink a tall glass of water. Lay down. Close your eyes. Turn on some music or the TV. And. Just. Do. Nothing.

Or you can do what legendary rocker Neil Young does: Eat black pepper.

“Try black pepper balls if you get paranoid,” Young said on The Howard Stern Show in 2014. “Just chew two or three pieces. I just found this out myself. Try it.”

Is this an urban legend perpetrated by Young? Nope. There is science to back up his claims. It’s called the “phytocannabinoid-terpenoid entourage effect.”

And here is an interesting take from Psychology Today:

“It is simply too narrow to say that cannabis causes paranoia, because there is no way to measure individual experiences. There are too many variables in an individual’s life, that in conjunction with the use of this plant, cause increased anxiety. The spirit of Mary Jane is a beautiful, creative one. Those who have a lot of experience with psychoactive plants can testify that if you are not experiencing beauty and creativity, it is probably due to some unconscious attitude. Why not explore within yourself? It’s all a learning experience.”

Well said!

6 Smart Sex Tips For Men Who Want To Please Women In Bed

The Fresh Toast has enlisted Rachel Krantz, a sex writer and proud canna-enthusiast, to help readers out with some answers as its sex columnist. No question is off limits, and all questions will remain anonymous. Please send your sex and relationship inquiries to freshlove@thefreshtoast.com. Now, onto this week’s topic: tips for men who want to please a woman.

Q: I’m about to have sex with this woman I really like. The only thing is, she’s mostly only slept with women the last few years. I know she likes men too, but it’s making me feel like I really need to bring it — and like I want to know if there’s anything I can learn from women who sleep with women. Any advice?

A: Good on you for wanting to do your research! As a sex writer and lifelong woman, I found it fascinating that there were some tips about pleasing a woman I only really came to understand from finally sleeping with another one myself. As a woman who also loves men, I’ll share some of these with you, in the hopes that you and other men might learn something too.

Buy Girl Sex 101

Girl Sex 101 is probably the best sex guide I’ve ever read. This book is intended for an audience of women who sleep with women — but men who sleep with women definitely have lots to gain from studying it. I picked up all kinds of tricks in this guide. Seriously, get it on your e-reader, stat.

When In Doubt, Tease

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Teasing, I was reminded once I was able to really slow down with another woman, is something women who sleep with men don’t get enough. Sure, you might think you’ve teased us, kissing around our panty-line, or touching nipples for a couple minutes — but if you want to level-up, you’re going to need to slow it way down.

That means only making out until she’s the one pulling at your clothes; sucking on her nipples through her bra until her hips are wildly bucking; holding her to you firmly-but-patiently by the ass and kissing her neck until she’s shivering and mumbling nonsense. This takes time.

Men sometimes think that slowing down means “being sweet” or lacking throw-down — a “making love” sort of sex. While that can be the case, slowing down can also actually be quite dominant and aggressive. If you’re making her wait and purposefully teasing her until she’s drenched, she is going to feel taken for quite the ride.

Establish A Connection With Her Vagina Before You Touch It

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This is a trick I learned about in orgasmic meditation (a practice also worth looking into if you want to please a woman — but that’s another article). One of the things “the stroker” does in orgasmic meditation is that they look at a woman’s vagina and say a few non-judgmental observations about how it looks before they touch it. They also “ground” the woman by pressing down on her thighs, then stroke her clitoris incredibly lightly for 15 minutes with only their pointer finger — a delicious tease.

Apply some of those same principles: When her hips are bucking at you from all this teasing, ask if you can see her vagina now. Press down firmly on the side of her thighs, and let her watch you look her straight in the vagina. Focus all your attention there; take a finger and gently part her labia, getting the lay of the land. Make her feel you find what you see beautiful and arousing. Cup a palm over her entire vagina and gently get the blood flowing before you touch her clitoris directly. Lightly pull back the hood of her clitoris. Look up and make determined eye contact. Draw out the process of diving in.

Vocalize Your Enjoyment & Take The Pressure Off

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Personally, it would make me very wet if someone did everything in the step above, then said explicitly, “I want to lick you now. I want you to know that as long as I am, I am enjoying it. I will not keep going past when I’m tired, but I really need to taste you. I don’t want you to think about coming; I just want you to focus on your clitoris. Can I lick you now?” Women are socialized to have shame around their vaginas, and to worry constantly during sex about “taking too long” to orgasm. Take that pressure off of her by being explicit about your enjoyment ahead of any insecure questions. A little  enthusiastic moaning straight onto the clitoris also feels great.

Ask Non- Judgmental, Specific Questions

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Even the most practiced of lesbians solicits specific feedback. As you’re pleasuring a woman, you might be tempted to ask “does this feel good?” Instead, it’s more useful to ask non-judgement-based yes-or-no questions like, “would you like me to lick you a little faster? Harder? To the left?” This way, she will be less concerned about your ego — and more focused on the present moment.

Ditch The Term “Foreplay”

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When I was with a woman, everything that is considered “foreplay” in hetero sex was the actual intercourse. It made me enjoy being pleasured much more to know it wasn’t simply an appetizer to the “main event” of penetration.

If you want to be exceptional in bed, you need to ditch the P-in-V = Sex paradigm. Have sex that doesn’t end in penetration sometimes, but in 69ing or mutual masturbation instead. Vocalize the fact that pleasuring her is not just foreplay to you — that it is the sex itself. As hard (heh) as it is sometimes, the more you begin redefining sex as not just P-in-V, the more you’ll be considered a stud. It’s not weak — actually, it’s just the opposite.

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